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I just turned 38. Having lived through most of my thirties, let me reflect a bit.

  1. Forgive yourself. Especially for things you did in your teenage years and your 20s- we were are all egotistical  and a bit selfish then. You’ll be so humbled by 40, that life won’t seem as serious as it does while you’re in your 30s.
  2. Spend time with your love, children, family and real friends. It passes by so fast. The days are long but the years are short. Work matters. But, it isn’t your life.
  3. Chase your dreams. Don’t wait until you have enough money, time, or energy. You won’t ever have that without passion. The odd thing is you may discover a new dream or fail, but simply TRYING will teach you as much as any university.
  4. Be grateful. Gratitude shifts your focus from what you lack to what you have, fostering a positive mindset.
  5. Quality Time Matters. Cherish and be present in the moments you share with your children. Get on the floor and play with them, teach them new skills and read to them.
  6. Movement is just as important for your mental health as it is for your physical health. Movement is essential for maintaining a healthy and balanced life and I promise you’ll never, ever regret a workout.
  7. Collect memories, not things. Snap some photos and spend money on the experiences.
  8. Learn to Say No. Saying no is important in your personal and professional life. Politely decline additional commitments that may strain your time.
  9. Surround yourself with positive people who make you feel good. Spend time with people who make you happy.
  10. After getting what you prayed for, keep praying. Pray for discipline to keep it and wisdom to multiply it.
  11. Keep going. You inspire people who pretend to not even see you. Trust me.
  12. Build generational wealth for your children and your children’s children. Add them to your company payroll, open a 529 Plan, start a Roth IRA.
  13. When people ask you what you do for a living, celebrate all of it. I am a dentist, teacher, nurse, secretary, project manager, chauffeur, chef, therapist, maid, seamstress, personal shopper, tutor, accountant, event planner and a boo-boo kisser but I used to just smile and say I am just a mother. You bring a lot to the table so act like it.
  14. Don’t spend your Mondays wishing they were Fridays. Also make better use of your Fridays to make for better stories on Monday.
  15. If you do not go after what you want in life, you’ll never have it.
  16. If you don’t ask, the answer will always be no.
  17. Get uncomfortable. Growth is uncomfortable, change is uncomfortable but nothing is worse than staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.
  18. Worry less about what people think of you. You will never be criticized by someone doing more than you. You will only be criticized by someone doing less.
  19. Strive for a healthy work-life balance to avoid burnout and enjoy life.
  20. Love Unconditionally. Learn to love and accept yourself unconditionally and extend that love to others.
  21. Daily reflection is so important. Look around you and appreciate what you have because nothing will be the same in a year.
  22. Stand up for yourself, always. Then stand up for those you love. Your future self will thank you for it.
  23. Attend the events. Go to the networking events, happy hours, birthday parties and dinner. DO it all because if you don’t, you’ll lose connections with people in your life that matter.
  24. Take care of yourself. Stay up late and attend the party but also get a good night’s sleep, hydrate and go to the gym the next day. You only get one body; take care of it.
  25. There really is something to be said about physically fit people. Being in shape is the one thing that only you can do for yourself. Keep the promises you make to yourself.
  26. Accept yourself but always strive to be better.  Okay this has gotten sooo long and is requiring way more reflection than I thought. SO for now we have 26 things Ive learned over 38 years but I’ll be back ;).

 

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